Posted By: Alexis Ignatovich
I find that I am constantly asking myself the same questions over and over again. Am I saving enough? Is my hair a good length for my face? What kind of life should I have in my 30’s? Am I dressed appropriately? Etc. etc. etc. Always assuming that I am just looking for a little guidance to ensure that I am on track to being a functional human being in one way or another (at least by BuzzFeed quiz standards). If you are not a victim of this, I apologize and would not take offense to your swift and expeditious closing of this post.
Comparison has always been a good benchmark for society to gauge whether or not your house can sell for $350,000 not $30,000 or if you shouldn’t be wearing that “Drinks well with others” T-shirt to a work BBQ. However I see that with social media and blog sites such as this, people gravitate towards googling the answers for EVERYTHING. I am personally guilty of this. I literally cannot tell you the last time I sat and writhed in the face of an unsolved question, thanks to 4G data and my smartphone.
Most recently I was trying to figure out if I have enough saved in my 401k retirement fund as compared to other 30-something year olds. Come to find out, I now feel really bad about my future and should consider the possibility of a double wide cardboard box for my retirement home. TENT CITY HERE I COME!
Needless to say after reading such material and devouring an entire bag of Oreos, crying about my future, I realized that I did not take into consideration my life. No, I did not start saving at 20. No, I have not been gainfully employed the entire time, which resulted in high credit card debt. No, I have not had my current salary for more than 6 months. With all that in the mix OF COURSE I don’t have even a fraction of the comparative benchmark!
Every individual has their own unique circumstances breeding with it a course of creativity and originality. Not everyone can keep up with the Kardashians. Time, money and not enough DVR space has seen to that. However, if you are looking for some good benchmarks to keep yourself on track, here are 4 tips to get you started:
1. Don’t fall for tricks.
Not everyone is where you think they are in life. Just because they have a better car than you or a nicer home, does not mean that they can actually afford it. Don’t compare yourself to others. They may just be a fool covered in gold paint and rolled in glitter.
2. A penny saved is a penny saved
Every penny you save is a penny more than you saved the day before and they all add up in the end. Do what you can and you will be in a better place overall.
3. Try A New Approach
Don’t be afraid to try something new! Not every answer can be googled. If you try and fail at least you know what doesn’t work for you and then try something else. You may just come up with an improved way to accomplish a goal.
4. Be Original
You are who you are and if you don’t like it, you can always change. Life is choices. Some good, some bad, but a choice nonetheless and in turn a chance to learn. Go ahead and wear that “Drinks well with others” t-shirt if you really want to. OWN IT and don’t apologize for it. You may come out with a good story to tell.