Posted By: Alexis Ignatovich
Starting something new is probably the most exciting and terrifying thing imaginable. The fear of failure and rejection is so palpable and heavy that you can literally feel your body being weighed down. At times it is almost as if you have to fight for every inch against the air around you. The worst part is the “what if” scenarios that continually whisper to your thoughts. “What if you fail?” “What if it succeeds, then what?” “What if you start and then f*ck it up and make a complete ass out of yourself, which will most likely happen because you don’t know what you are doing?”
Yeah…The struggle is real my friend. But…. what if you DID try?
Whether you are starting a new job or setting out on a new personal adventure, anxiety is sure to rear its ugly head. Personally it is almost as though a 9 volt battery was placed in the middle of my chest and with each breath I take, a lovely ZAP of electricity sears through my body every time I THINK about it. Fun, right? WRONG!
However whatever you do, don’t give up! There is something profoundly self-rewarding when you try. Even through the late nights with blurry eyes and constant interruptions, push through it. Here are some tips to help you overcome your fear of trying:
What are you afraid of? Be honest with yourself. Understand why and what you are afraid of. Many times the answer to this question is “failure”. Failure to succeed, failure to make an impression, failure at life. Remember, failure is a part of life. No one gets it right 100% of the time. In sales they say “Go for No”. This stems from the law of statistics where for every X number of “No’s” there are Y number of “Yes’s”. This theory is also a great way to thwart the idea of failure. Try to remember that if you do not succeed you are just one step closer to your goal!
Keep it simple. I am an avid believer that simplicity is key to ANY task and lists are EVERYTHING. Every large obstacle can be broken down into smaller puzzle pieces that fit seamlessly together. Try applying the K.I.S.S. method and create a detailed list of every step to accomplishing your goal and tackle them one by one.
Do your research. The internet is a great tool to help you learn. Most of the time if you are trying to set out on a new adventure of some sort, lack of intimate knowledge on the subject may be holding you back. Research as much as you can to help ease your fear.
Don’t make excuses. There is a blurred line between “Reasons” and “Excuses”. As I like to say, “Reasons are just excuses with better logic!” Many people will stop themselves before they even have a chance to start by listing all the “reasons” they shouldn’t. Revert back to “keep it simple” and break down your reason, I bet you find a logical solution to overcome this boundary.
Like attracts like. Immerse yourself with people who either share your interest or have accomplished the same end goal you are attempting. Shared knowledge of firsthand accounts can be invaluable to your cause.
Whatever path you take on your journey, be it personal or professional, overcome that fear of trying and don’t give up. Say to yourself you got this over and over again when you feel as though you have hit a wall.
“I have not failed. I just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”
– Thomas A. Edison